“We should no longer procrastinate with inaction nor remain silent. To remain so would be blatant.”
“The Church must effectively rise to give the needed priority to family discipleship in their “ministry agenda” and urgently develop the “equipping capacity” in response to this.”
THE foundational biblical understanding stated in Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and also in Genesis 18:18-19, Deuteronomy 11:18-20, as well as in Ephesians 6:4, is; that parents are primarily responsible for the spiritual training of children.
God created the family as the primary “institution” to extend faith training to the next generation. It is in our homes where we practice hospitality, generosity, self-sacrifice, forgiveness, love, and all other aspects of adherence to God’s Word and its teachings. The classroom of the Church, whether age-segregated or not, does not allow for the real-life application of Scriptural principles.
Therefore, the state of health of the home is a key success factor of the Church and it should greatly matter to us.
God calls the Church to equip its members for “the work of ministry” (Ephesians 4:12), including how they should minister at home – helping them to have the needed skills and resources to undertake their roles.
Besides being the “equipper”, the Church is our “extended” family. It is the Body of Christ.
More often than not, we find ourselves ministering in an environment where family systems are breaking down at an alarming rate – a situation that had persisted over many years and is expected to get worse, rather than better, in the future.
When we are confronted by national statistics on divorce and other damaging situations that families face, we often ponder how the families in our church really fare in comparison to the national paradigm. Many of us have first-hand experiences of walking with church leaders and members through their very own crippling family struggles.
Though the global Church invests much in disciple-making in its response to the Great Commission call of God, often this process excludes discipleship of its members as to how they live as disciples of Jesus at home.
Global opinion polls clearly indicate that discipleship of the home is usually not a priority in the ministry agenda of the Church leaders. We tend to stay away from asking how our leaders and members are living at home.
The prevailing ministry to families in the church is one that is predominantly reactive in mode (in handling family conflicts). It should rather be a pre-emptive and pro-active involving systematic discipleship of Christians, to live godly relationships within the home and outside of it.
Though it is hard to gauge the exact impacts of family problems on the Church, we do know for sure that “hurting families” hurt the Church and retard its capacity to bring forward the dynamics of being the “Salt and the Light” to the world.
With many struggling to live according to the design of God at home within the church community, it makes us wonder how we could possibly build the kind of Church that not only withstands the trials of the last days but also thrive in them?
The question that the Psalmist asks in Psalm 11:3, “if the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?”, is also ours to ask – as we face the future of the Church, especially when we are witnessing the massive exodus of the millennial generation from faith to prodigal nothingness.
The need to stem the rapidly rising and insidious tide of crosswinds coming forth from dysfunctional homes calls for our urgent intervention now.
We should no longer procrastinate with inaction nor remain silent. To remain so would be blatant.
The Church must effectively rise to give the needed priority to family discipleship in their “ministry agenda” and urgently develop the “equipping capacity” in response to this.
A common tendency of a church leader who has embraced God’s vision and call to develop family discipleship is to hastily source for a programme or two to serve as an immediate band-aid solution to ease the urgency and need of the hour.
This is a good stop-gap response as it helps ease the urgency of the situation. However, a much better and long-term response would be to cultivate the right church culture that focuses on the discipleship of its members. This includes building the key pillars of a biblically functional home (marriage, parenting, home leadership, faith development, matters of sexuality, family resource management, aged care, and others) with additional family equipping programmes as an adjunct.
Culture consists of those fundamental beliefs of family discipleship that drive appropriate ministry practices (including programmes) that meet the needs of the corporate church and the home (the domestic church) in their endeavours to be disciples.
Therefore, the aim of building the family discipleship culture is to identify and establish the appropriate beliefs that undergird the commitment to such discipleship. Once these are firmly rooted among the Church leadership and congregation, the right practices, including finding out the right needs and the related programmes based on these beliefs will naturally follow.
Our focus is on building the right Church culture (beliefs and practices) for family discipleship to flourish in a local church.
There are two types of disciple-making cultures we are aiming to cultivate:
The shifts in beliefs and the new practices to introduce and establish the family discipleship cultures in the church and home are major.
Hence, to succeed in such endeavors, there is a critical need for us to design a “culture-change” management process that is appropriate for the local church and the home. This involves the following phases:
Drawing from our many years of experience, our team provides the following support in building the family discipleship culture in your church.
To train Master Trainers in the ‘Strengthening the Family Discipleship Culture programme.’ This involves a 24-month process that consists of the following:
Family Challenge is a global strategic collaboration that aims to transform communities around the globe by partnering with the church body to disciple families according to God’s design to be agents of change, impacting their communities for Christ.
Rise of national family discipleship movements with national leadership and network churches jointly and actively championing biblically functional families.
To partner with the national alliances in supporting their network churches in the development of effective family discipleship as an integral part of their corporate discipleship structure.
P.C. Mathew is presently the Board Chairman of Christian Counsellors Association of India and Board member of Asian Christian Counsellors Association. He is the Global facilitator of the Transform World – family sphere. He has initiated several trainings for pastors and leaders globally and in the South Asia region through WEA family challenge and Transform world. He also is an advisor to the 4/14 window movement in India.Married to Rose for over 44 years, they have two married sons and are grandparents to one granddaughter.
The organization’s structure consists of the Global Advisory team and the regional and national facilitation teams.
THE foundational biblical understanding stated in Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and also in Genesis 18:18-19, Deuteronomy 11:18-20, as well as in Ephesians 6:4, is; that parents are primarily responsible for the spiritual training of children.
God created the family as the primary “institution” to extend faith training to the next generation. It is in our homes where we practice hospitality, generosity, self-sacrifice, forgiveness, love, and all other aspects of adherence to God’s Word and its teachings. The classroom of the Church, whether age-segregated or not, does not allow for the real-life application of Scriptural principles.
Therefore, the state of health of the home is a key success factor of the Church and it should greatly matter to us.
God calls the Church to equip its members for “the work of ministry” (Ephesians 4:12), including how they should minister at home – helping them to have the needed skills and resources to undertake their roles.
Besides being the “equipper”, the Church is our “extended” family. It is the Body of Christ.
More often than not, we find ourselves ministering in an environment where family systems are breaking down at an alarming rate – a situation that had persisted over many years and is expected to get worse, rather than better, in the future.
When we are confronted by national statistics on divorce and other damaging situations that families face, we often ponder how the families in our church really fare in comparison to the national paradigm. Many of us have first-hand experiences of walking with church leaders and members through their very own crippling family struggles.
Though the global Church invests much in disciple-making in its response to the Great Commission call of God, often this process excludes discipleship of its members as to how they live as disciples of Jesus at home.
Global opinion polls clearly indicate that discipleship of the home is usually not a priority in the ministry agenda of the Church leaders. We tend to stay away from asking how our leaders and members are living at home.
The prevailing ministry to families in the church is one that is predominantly reactive in mode (in handling family conflicts). It should rather be a pre-emptive and pro-active involving systematic discipleship of Christians, to live godly relationships within the home and outside of it.
Though it is hard to gauge the exact impacts of family problems on the Church, we do know for sure that “hurting families” hurt the Church and retard its capacity to bring forward the dynamics of being the “Salt and the Light” to the world.
With many struggling to live according to the design of God at home within the church community, it makes us wonder how we could possibly build the kind of Church that not only withstands the trials of the last days but also thrive in them?
The question that the Psalmist asks in Psalm 11:3, “if the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?”, is also ours to ask – as we face the future of the Church, especially when we are witnessing the massive exodus of the millennial generation from faith to prodigal nothingness.
The need to stem the rapidly rising and insidious tide of crosswinds coming forth from dysfunctional homes calls for our urgent intervention now.
We should no longer procrastinate with inaction nor remain silent. To remain so would be blatant.
The Church must effectively rise to give the needed priority to family discipleship in their “ministry agenda” and urgently develop the “equipping capacity” in response to this.
A common tendency of a church leader who has embraced God’s vision and call to develop family discipleship is to hastily source for a programme or two to serve as an immediate band-aid solution to ease the urgency and need of the hour.
This is a good stop-gap response as it helps ease the urgency of the situation. However, a much better and long-term response would be to cultivate the right church culture that focuses on the discipleship of its members. This includes building the key pillars of a biblically functional home (marriage, parenting, home leadership, faith development, matters of sexuality, family resource management, aged care, and others) with additional family equipping programmes as an adjunct.
Culture consists of those fundamental beliefs of family discipleship that drive appropriate ministry practices (including programmes) that meet the needs of the corporate church and the home (the domestic church) in their endeavours to be disciples.
Therefore, the aim of building the family discipleship culture is to identify and establish the appropriate beliefs that undergird the commitment to such discipleship. Once these are firmly rooted among the Church leadership and congregation, the right practices, including finding out the right needs and the related programmes based on these beliefs will naturally follow.
Our focus is on building the right Church culture (beliefs and practices) for family discipleship to flourish in a local church.
There are two types of disciple-making cultures we are aiming to cultivate:
The shifts in beliefs and the new practices to introduce and establish the family discipleship cultures in the church and home are major.
Hence, to succeed in such endeavors, there is a critical need for us to design a “culture-change” management process that is appropriate for the local church and the home. This involves the following phases:
Drawing from our many years of experience, our team provides the following support in building the family discipleship culture in your church.
To train Master Trainers in the ‘Strengthening the Family Discipleship Culture programme.’ This involves a 24-month process that consists of the following:
Family Challenge is a global strategic collaboration that aims to transform communities around the globe by partnering with the church body to disciple families according to God’s design to be agents of change, impacting their communities for Christ.
Rise of national family discipleship movements with national leadership and network churches jointly and actively championing biblically functional families.
To partner with the national alliances in supporting their network churches in the development of effective family discipleship as an integral part of their corporate discipleship structure.
P.C. Mathew is presently the Board Chairman of Christian Counsellors Association of India and Board member of Asian Christian Counsellors Association. He is the Global facilitator of the Transform World – family sphere. He has initiated several trainings for pastors and leaders globally and in the South Asia region through WEA family challenge and Transform world. He also is an advisor to the 4/14 window movement in India.Married to Rose for over 44 years, they have two married sons and are grandparents to one granddaughter.
The organization’s structure consists of the Global Advisory team and the regional and national facilitation teams.